As time moves forward from the horrible tragedy that occurred at Sandy Hook elementary school last Friday, I am still shaken. I think I will tear up at every mention of those 26 killed–20 of them children–for the rest of my life.
I can’t help myself. I’m a mom, and I’ve always been empathetic. I’m grieving with the bereft mothers, because if these women could tell us one thing, I’m sure it would be how special and unique their children were. They are children worth grieving over.
In response to this horrible act of evil, a number of bloggers are celebrating the ABCs of Love: 26 ways to remember the 26 lives lost in the Sandy Hook Elementary School tragedy. Each letter of the alphabet represents another way to infuse your family and community with love. You may be doing these already, but it’s never bad to encourage each other toward love, right?
A number of us are writing about these today, but we invite you to participate, too! Just pick a letter, perform an act of love, and either share about it or hold it quietly in your heart–it’s up to you.
Since our last name begins with “M” I chose to celebrate MAKING MEMORIES with my family. Perfect for the Christmas season, yes?
I’ve been holding my children closer lately and I’m not alone: countless mothers are holding their children dear these days. Family Christmas rituals have taken on even more meaning, and memories are all the more precious.
Instead of imploding in fear because of this tragedy, I’m allowing it to remind me to:
- Do my best to appreciate my children for who they are and who God made them to be;
- Embrace the mundane details of my life, because this is the only life I get;
- Cherish (= to hold or treat as dear) this time with my children, knowing they will grow up and away;
- Make memories out of the little things;
- Be purposeful to make special memories as a family (during vacations, etc.).
Christmas is a great time to make memories. This year, we will decorate Christmas cookies, tell the story of Jesus the King who was born in a manger, attend a Christmas Eve service and open one present on Christmas Eve. These are some of our traditions, and they lend structure and comfort to our children’s lives. Building memories as a family also increases our togetherness and sense of unity.
My goal over Christmas is to store up these memories and talk about them together throughout the year. This way I won’t miss one bit of this season with my children, and we can keep reaping the benefits over years to come.
I wish you a wonderful Christmas with your family, and many good memories to come. As the celebration of Christmas approaches, let us all remember:
I can barely keep it together when I sing that last line.